Have you heard about the popular book series,”Moms on Call”? It’s written by former nurses that are local here in Georgia and offers valuable first aid tips to new parents.
I’ve had many inquiries, after blogging about Dr. Harvey Karp and his sleep protocols, on whether or not I follow the “Moms on Call” method.
I first heard about “Moms on Call” at Baby Braithwaite, the baby boutique I was registered at. My sales associate handed it to me and said “buy this trust me!”
Well, I bought the book. The first of the series of three. I really enjoyed the initial chapters regarding first aid and basic childcare principles on fevers, diaper changing and the like.
I even made
notes a full outline (law school style) on baby first aid, temperature regulation, poop colors.
It’s incredible how often you talk about poop when you become a parent.
The second half of the book is heavily devoted to the practice of scheduling. I know many mamas who adore the scheduling offered by “Moms on Call” and it works for them. For my husband and I, we just didn’t feel comfortable with it.
I’m not anti “MOC”, so I’m not here to disparage “Moms on Call”. I’m just explaining why I didn’t choose to follow it.
I do feel slightly bold in saying this, because literally every mom I know follows this scheduling program for their child. Honestly, I think that’s great. As a parent, I’ve become far less judgmental in that way. Sometimes, it’s just survival mode. You have to do what works for you and your family. Full stop.
Every family, every parent, every child is different. It is only natural that different things work for different people. We all know that to be true.
It is well known that babies thrive on routine and consistency in implementing their routine. Of course, an entire scheduling system is supplied in the book, which is really handy.
Before our son was born, I felt this urgency for someone to like fall out of the sky and tell me what to do every minute of the day. One would think I would be receptive to a full schedule, for every period of baby’s first year.
At the same time, I’m a fabulously stubborn person. As desperate as I was for guidance on what to do and when, I bucked up to the author’s kind provision of exactly that.
After further thought I realized that I do like routine. However, I don’t like schedules. This is more of a personal insecurity. See, if I followed their schedule, I would inevitably miss a nap, or a feeding, or otherwise screw it up. I wanted control in a different way.
So here we are. We dwell and survive on a routine that goes with the flow. I don’t know if that’s a real thing, a chapter in a baby book, recommended by doctors, or nurses, or is even enviable.
I don’t know what it’s called, but that is what we do over here in the Washburn household. We have a routine, not a schedule. It gels and jives and travels and changes. For better or for worse.
But it’s not “MOC” and I’m pretty sure the authors of the book would think I’m insane because what we do is polar opposite.
There are fundamentals that we absolutely adhere to. Pierce always gets the requisite ounces of formula he needs each day through feeding within 2-3 hour intervals of time. Somedays, though, an interval might be 4 hours. We had 5 hours once or twice. See what I mean?
That discrepancy is because he had a growth spurt, he had like 8 or 9 ounce bottles for a week. It kept him fuller for a longer period of time. I believe our nurse told me that babies of his age/weight metabolize 1.5 ounces of formula per hour.
He takes naps and sleeps for the doctor’s recommended amount of time each day. Once he turned 2 months old, we no longer allowed a nap to exceed 2 hours, per Dr. Karp’s sleep program.
Above all else, ask your friends, your family, Facebook mom groups. Say some prayers. You will find your own groove. Maybe that’s a “MOC” method or Babywise, or something else.
Be empowered by your own choices and unafraid of owning the method that feels most natural and intuitive to you.
Sweet babies need sweet parents. So try to do what makes you feel the sweetest and stick with that!
For expecting moms who have asked, I’ll post more about what Pierce’s “schedule” – for lack of a better word – looks like.
I also encourage people to read up on “Moms on Call” because I know many who are purists and it works extremely well for them and others who loosely base their schedules according to the book.
Thank you for reading! I’d love to hear what works for you!! Please share with me your thoughts!